“So what do you look for in a guy?” is one of the most common questions I get as a single woman. I was recently asked that question and I had a hard time answering. I mean, is there really any one specific trait that I like in men? Isn’t it usually a mixture of them?
This reminds me of a hilarious scene from the movie PS I Love You. It involves Lisa Kudrow AKA Phoebe in Friends. Watch it below.
In case you can’t watch the video, I’ll break the scene down for you. Lisa’s character picks up guys by first asking them three questions: (1) Are you single? (2) Are you gay? (3) Are you working? Then kisses them. If she doesn’t like any of the responses, she walks away. Haha.
I probably won’t do that ever, but here is a list of 7 traits I find attractive in a guy.
(1) Witty Trumps Pretty
This term came from Buzzfeed’s What City Should You Actually Live In? test that I took a couple of days ago (I got Los Angeles, by the way). I picked this answer for the question “What do you look for in a mate?”
When the Avengers movie aired sometime ago, I realized that wit was the one thing I admired the most in men because Iron Man was my favorite among them all, even though I fell for all the heroes during their individual movies.
Also, when I have a crush on a TV or movie character and start following them on social media and I find that they are not as witty as the roles they play, I get turned off. A pretty face could be the pulling factor, but it is never enough to keep me.
(2) Brainy is the New Sexy
I was raised by smart parents who are proud of me for my brains. Is it any wonder that I put such a high worth on intelligence?
Don’t get me wrong, I am not looking for a genius and actually don’t like those, can you imagine dating Sheldon Cooper? Nightmare. I just want someone who has basic grammar down pat and reads a bit, you know?
I want someone who has a good head but a better heart. Someone who is kind not just to the people he likes, but to everyone in his life. Someone like Peeta in Hunger Games, I guess?
(4) Sense of Humor
I believe that a day without laughter is a day wasted, so I always surround myself with people with good sense of humor. I can’t stand grumpy cats.
(5) Good Conversationalist
My dream date would be the movie Before Sunrise. I talk like Jesse there, according to my friend. I think I agree with her.
I like to talk, so I appreciate someone who can return the favor and not just sit there contributing nods. Boring. I can’t stand boring men.
But I also don’t like a guy who just talks and talks about himself and never asks you to talk. I once dated someone like that. Needless to say, he didn’t get a second date. Conversations, after all, are a two-way street.
So let’s talk about looks. I get turned off by tattoos, body piercings, and scruffy-looking beards. But for some reason I like men who wear their hair ruffled up a bit and not parted and slicked down. So I don’t like overly clean-looking, vain men either. If he is more meticulous with his skin care regimen and more concerned about fashion than me, then we have a problem.
(7) Sense of Adventure
I like the ones who want more out of life and are not content to lead placid lives doing the same thing over and over and over again. Spontaneous ones who will want to try new things with me.
If you know anyone who has some of these traits (and who is single, straight, and working, as per Lisa), please feel free to point him in my direction! And if he’s British, that’s 2 more points for Gryffindor. 😉