I came across this book several months ago in National Bookstore. Now the book is written by Bo Sanchez, who is also the editor of Kerygma, a popular religious magazine in the country. So at first I had my doubts. I am normally not a fan of overly-religious things. But the cover was eye-catching, and of course, so was the title. Since I was nursing a bruised heart then, I thought, why not? and bought the book. I loved it. It was funny and insightful and made a lot of sense. I have been recommending it to my single friends eversince. The book is not your typical religious dating book that tells you to “pray to God to give you the right man” and all that but actually encourages you to “take responsibility for finding your one true love. Don’t give God the responsibility He gave you.” Then it goes on to tell you how to do just that. Cool.
Here are some of my favorite portions from the book. The second one is such an eye-opener for me, because I don’t know why, but I always seem to attract a lot of selfish, heartless wimps.
Do you know what insanity is? Insanity is doing the same old things but expecting new results. I know singles, who, for the past 10 years, go to three places and three places only: their home, their office and their prayer meeting. Period. But they expect that somehow, they’ll see someone new along the way.
Gee, nothing is impossible. Who knows? Probably in another 10 or 20 years, he’ll come walking along your path, perhaps even knocking on your door. (Your options are very few: the pizza delivery guy, the electric bill collector, the water bill collector, and the postman.)
When evening comes, you’ll see these singles at home, watching TV and taking frequent trips to the refrigerator. As one author said, there are very few potential husbands that can be found between the TV and the refrigerator.
If you don’t find potential husbands in your office and in your prayer meeting, then you’ve got to break routine. Expand your search area.Women, I warn you: Some men are selfish, heartless wimps. They get their kicks raising the expectations of a number of women – and then dashing their hearts to the ground. Run away from such vile creatures of the underworld.
However, some guys are not selfish, heartless wimps. They’re just wimps! They’re so afraid of rejection – they’ll never tell you upfront that they like you. So Mr. Fearful will drop “little signs” of extra special attention towards your direction, hoping that if you like him, you’ll drop “little signs” as well. Then he’ll make the move.
That’s life, ladies. If you like him, drop one or two little signs too. But not too much! Don’t be too obvious. just give him enough to encourage him to court you more explicitly. Because you want him to pursue you, not the other way around.
If he keeps on doing this for some time and he’s driving you nuts, you’ll have to muster the courage and ask him directly.I love what Scott Peck, the author of the classic The Road Less Traveled said about true love. He says true love begins only when one falls out of love. Because true love has to be willed. There’s got to be a decision involved. While you’re in love with someone, love is involuntary. You just love. (The feeling of love falls on you like a brick from the sky hitting your head – wham! – and you don’t know what hit you.) But when you fall out of love, and you still make a choice to love, then that’s the beginning of true love.
Related Links:
One True Love Network
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