How to Get Over Someone

It’s not easy to get over someone you love. But if loving him is only hurting you, it’s best to move on. So how do you go about doing that?

(1) Wallow. Talk to close friends, let it all out, cry your heart out and let it out of your system. It’s okay to be depressed and totally unhealthy to be in denial about it. If you bottle it up, it will eat you up inside. Once you’ve let it out, you can move on.

(2) Sever all ties. No you can’t be friends while you still have feelings for him. Cut all communication. Delete his number from your cellphone (and please, do not memorize it) and stop yourself from texting or calling him. Change your number if you have to, so as to stop jumping each time your phone beeps, hoping that it’s him. Unfriend him on Facebook or hide him from your timeline. Set up your email to filter his email add straight into the trash so you won’t see it and get tempted to read and reply. If he communicates with you, do not respond.

(3) Out of sight, out of mind, out of heart. Stay as far away from him as you can so that you won’t see him. Delete/hide/throw away/burn all his photos and all other items that would remind you of him. Don’t hang out at the  places that he frequents or you used to frequent so you won’t bump into him or let something trigger a memory of him. Stop thinking of him and try not to talk about him as much as possible because the more you talk about him, the more you remember him. From now on, he doesn’t exist.

(4) Distraction. As a coping method, it’s totally underrated. Make sure your calendar is booked with activities to keep you from thinking about him, missing him and feeling sorry for yourself. Hit the gym, watch movies, read an exciting book (preferably something non-romantic), hang out with friends. Keep yourself busy and surround yourself with happy people and activities.

(5) Find someone else. This is actually the fastest and most fool-proof way to get over him – by replacing him in your heart. Don’t force it, though, or you may end up hurting someone, as rebound relationships are wont to do. Just don’t close your heart out and don’t be afraid to love again – not all men are like him. Just make sure not to jump into another relationship based on a sham.